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The Perpetual Distraction Of This Reality

 

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We live in a society with seemingly endless things to do. We begin to do one thing earnestly and make progress towards completing this thing. However, we then suddenly jump ship to something else and leave what we have done as an unfinished article. We then continue this pattern, until we get to a stage where we still have so much to do yet hardly anything done. The issues just keep mounting up. We are doing so much yet we are doing so little. What is going on?

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Perpetual Faller

It appears what is going here is that we giving into to every turn of the tide. As soon as something new comes across our path, we latch onto it like a rag doll. We are now at the mercy of these distractions, which, I might add are actually entirely off our own making. They are the results of the repression off internal energies and thoughts. Repression always lead to things coming back ten-fold, and more often than not, this is the reason why we are constantly being dragged into things.

Another part of it procrastination. Things in life are meant to be challenging, and this is what teaches us to grow. However, what happens for a lot of people, is when faced with this difficulty, they switch off. The talents inherent within are shunned and one quickly looks for a route to do something else. This is a real shame, because if we had truly and diligently poured our heart into this difficulty, we would have found the solution.

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Perpetual Loser

 

So what happens when we don’t find the solution?

Well its quite clear we end up with a lot of things half done. Our life appears to be a series of fits and farts. Despite starting many ventures, we just never complete them. To make matters worse, things keep piling up and we become overwhelmed. This is when we throw in the towel and the cycle starts all over again.

Something has got to give.

 

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How to be a perpetual WINNER

 

The first step to changing anything, is understanding that there is a problem in the first place. We have to acknowledge that we are stuck in a cycle in life, and make the conscious intention to break it. It won’t be easy, but I guarantee you that it will be worth it.

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Step 1 – Remove all sources of distraction

The first thing we need to do is completely cut ourselves away from distractions. Would-be recovering alcoholics, often make it a practice to eliminate all sources of alcohol from the house. Dieters also do something similar, by removing all garbage food from the cupboards and replacing with healthy options.

Simply put, you need to get away to the forest to recover, and allow yourself the time away from these painful distractions

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Step 2 – Observe the distraction

Re-introduce yourself to being around these distractions, as the period of cutting away should not be too long, lest you commit escapism. Observe the distractions as they arise, and fully accept it. Do not act on them, just breathe and observe. You will eventually come to realise that you actually have the power to decide over these things, and it is your choice. Completely surrender to it, without acting. Here you will realise your true power.

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Step 3 – Realise that this will help you learn

The final stage will be to understand and comprehend the distraction in such a manner, that you can actually use it to aid you. Here the master will love when he encounters a distraction. Although he may fall, he will learn many valuable lessons from this and eventually see distraction for what it is. Neither good nor bad, simply a tool to help with the development of one’s loftier pursuits.

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So there it is, I hope you enjoyed this article. How have you managed to approach distraction? Share your answers below!

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How to handle Awkward conversations

“He who asks the questions CONTROLS the conversation”

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Awkward conversations can be frightening and uncomfortable. They may put you off speaking to people because you are not being authentic. Here are some of my tips on how to handle awkward conversations (and in some cases make them un-awakward!)

Become genuinely interested in the other person

This is my first and probably most important tip. When talking to somebody it is imperative we ask questions to find out more about them. The key to making this authentic and from a good place is to actually be interested in what they have to say. Listen intently, feel and picture their words. When you are genuinely interested in something it allows the other person to open up; they can sense your genuine energy whilst you are all the more intrigued. Have you ever noticed when interested in something you will ask many questions about it?

 

Slow down and Pauseeeee!

Whist holding conversations much of time we are so focused on what we are getting out of it, which is fine. However, this then makes us very un-grounded, and forcing lots of questions on the other person like an interrogator. Learn to pause, take a deep breath, take in what the other person has just said. Now whilst pauses may feel ever so awkward because you are eager to keep the conversation going, they are all be it a very powerful tool if used in a genuine matter. What I mean by this is; listen to the individual, and if you don’t have anything to say once they have finished the piece, then reply with the following: “Hmmm, interesting, whilst rubbing your lower face slightly”. Try it in your next conversation, it works many wonders… but be authentic!

 

Realise success comes in the amount of uncomfortable conversations you are willing to have

People often wonder what the death of success actually is. I have the answer. The reason people don’t succeed is because they are afraid to get out of their comfort zone. Becoming comfortable with being uncomfortable is key for success, and this is also the case with having conversations with people. If you like a girl, go up there speak to her, be willing to screw it all up; because guess what? Once you have done it you will realise it is not so scary after all. You will learn new things and be able to handle conversations much easier in future. Do not being fearful of awkward conversations – in fact this may sound cliche, but, strive to make at least some of your conversations… awkward.

 

BE YOURSELF

Now I am contradicting myself here, because at the top I opened with the most important tip. Well make the top tip, the now second most important tip; being yourself is by far the best thing you can do. When holding a conversation with someone BE YOURSELF. Do not try and emulate somebody and this just makes it inauthentic. What I mean by being yourself is to express how you are feeling at any given moment. Say what you genuinely want to say even if it will be ridiculed. Be true to yourself, do not lie, and trust your inner guidance. To be ourselves we must find ourselves, but one sure way of finding thyself, is to act from within as much as possible.

 

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I hope you enjoyed these tips, have a great day, and remember, slow down, relax and be real! 

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The Attitude of Gratitude

“Gratitude in advance is the most powerful creative force in the universe”

Neale Donald Walsh

Look around you, look very close, you will begin to see that in today’s society many people are not grateful for what they have, as a matter of fact they behave in a totally opposite way. We live in a society where many people are complaining about their life and circumstances. A way out of this, offered by the elite is to keep attempting to make one self better, through the possession of materialistic items, however, this does not satisfy us. It actually makes us want more and thereby not appreciate what we currently have. We live in a World where a lot of us (me included) are never truly grateful for the miracle of life, and for the fact we are alive… right here, right now.

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Why / How is Gratitude so powerful?!

Employing gratitude is an EXTREMELY powerful process. When you stop, reflect on life and be truly grateful for what you have your life will begin to change. You will genuinely be happy. Gone will be the days of claiming to be a happy once a future goal is reached, you can choose to be happy NOW.

Gratitude is the key to happiness. Daily practice of gratitude can ironically allow you to reach your goals faster. Ever heard the saying ‘fake it till you make it’? Well this is similar to gratitude, be happy now, be grateful now, feel how you would in your ideal life now, and guess what? One of the most important steps towards your goal is achieved. Be grateful for the flowers outside, your family helping you out, a stranger giving you way in traffic, and even for the food on your plate. Some of the most happiest people are those with nothing at all to their name. They have nothing, yet somehow, have everything.

How to practice gratitude

Practising gratitude is a very simple process and need not be complicated, however, there are many different ways to practice gratitude. Here are some of my favourites.

  • Gratitude Journal – Every day, find three new things to be grateful about and write them down in as much detail as possible. Whenever feeling ungrateful, simply refer back to your gratitude journal.

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    Here are some examples
  • Speak gratitude into existence – As you go about your day, attempt to notice as many things to be grateful for as possible. When you see something, marvel at it, do not judge it, simply be grateful for its beauty, and say it out loud.

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  • Give more thanks – Saying thank you is one, if not the most powerful form of gratitude you can employ. Say thank you for everything. For your life, for the postman delivering you valuable letters, your mother for her home-cooked foods. Say thank you more, and you will receive more.

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Lastly, attempt to always see life with the attitude of gratitude. Be genuinely grateful, and you will be happy, I guarantee it.

Thank you for reading this article. Read more on these topics

Truth about Happiness

The Beauty Of Giving

How To Continually Grow Stronger In A Negative World

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The real reason why I train (and why you should too!)

The pain of training, spewing your guts all over the floor, or the pleasure of training doing what you find fun… which one to do? More importantly, which one resonates with you?

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Pain comes part and parcel with training there is no escaping it, however, what defines pain?

The training style I love to partake in is bodybuilding, and have been training for around 8 months. There are many different ways to train, but I prefer a mix of controlled, heavy to start and then finishing the workout with high-rep (burnout) pumps.The thing is it hurts, but there is something about the pain that I love (call me crazy). Now if i was to go crazy and force myself to do things I did not want to do (like 10 sets of hack squats!) then that would be pain I do not like, and guess what? It won’t grant me results. Forcing yourself do something you really hate will eventually have its toll. This means it is important you define really what kind of pain you are willing to endure.

 

 

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If you give up at the first hurdle of pain, you have lost out on lots of upcoming pleasure

Pleasure

Often after reaching the end of a good, hard training session, comes those endorphin’s, that amazing feeling of pleasure.

Have you ever realised that after giving it your all and leaving everything out there (under that Barbell) that you will come out of the gym with one of the best high’s ever known to man?

They say with pain comes pleasure, and this is certainly the case with bodybuilding. You put in the work, you endure pain, you see results, and this motivates you to keep going, thereby facing the pain yet again. Like i said, with pain comes pleasure, intense pleasure.

 

 

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Arnold Schwarzenegger sums it up perfectly

So.. how should YOU train?

Now we arrive at the most important part of the article, how should I as an individual train?

Well firstly it depends on what you are training for, an athlete training for a marathon will be training much differently to that of a sprinter. However, what ever form of training you do, you MUST find a way to enjoy it. The most successful athletes in life are those who do what they love and therefore work extremely hard towards that particular endeavour. what they love, because they work extremely hard towards that particular endeavour.

So remember guys, train hard and enjoy the pain by doing what you love!

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