“He who asks the questions CONTROLS the conversation”
Awkward conversations can be frightening and uncomfortable. They may put you off speaking to people because you are not being authentic. Here are some of my tips on how to handle awkward conversations (and in some cases make them un-awakward!)
Become genuinely interested in the other person
This is my first and probably most important tip. When talking to somebody it is imperative we ask questions to find out more about them. The key to making this authentic and from a good place is to actually be interested in what they have to say. Listen intently, feel and picture their words. When you are genuinely interested in something it allows the other person to open up; they can sense your genuine energy whilst you are all the more intrigued. Have you ever noticed when interested in something you will ask many questions about it?
Slow down and Pauseeeee!
Whist holding conversations much of time we are so focused on what we are getting out of it, which is fine. However, this then makes us very un-grounded, and forcing lots of questions on the other person like an interrogator. Learn to pause, take a deep breath, take in what the other person has just said. Now whilst pauses may feel ever so awkward because you are eager to keep the conversation going, they are all be it a very powerful tool if used in a genuine matter. What I mean by this is; listen to the individual, and if you don’t have anything to say once they have finished the piece, then reply with the following: “Hmmm, interesting, whilst rubbing your lower face slightly”. Try it in your next conversation, it works many wonders… but be authentic!
Realise success comes in the amount of uncomfortable conversations you are willing to have
People often wonder what the death of success actually is. I have the answer. The reason people don’t succeed is because they are afraid to get out of their comfort zone. Becoming comfortable with being uncomfortable is key for success, and this is also the case with having conversations with people. If you like a girl, go up there speak to her, be willing to screw it all up; because guess what? Once you have done it you will realise it is not so scary after all. You will learn new things and be able to handle conversations much easier in future. Do not being fearful of awkward conversations – in fact this may sound cliche, but, strive to make at least some of your conversations… awkward.
Now I am contradicting myself here, because at the top I opened with the most important tip. Well make the top tip, the now second most important tip; being yourself is by far the best thing you can do. When holding a conversation with someone BE YOURSELF. Do not try and emulate somebody and this just makes it inauthentic. What I mean by being yourself is to express how you are feeling at any given moment. Say what you genuinely want to say even if it will be ridiculed. Be true to yourself, do not lie, and trust your inner guidance. To be ourselves we must find ourselves, but one sure way of finding thyself, is to act from within as much as possible.
I hope you enjoyed these tips, have a great day, and remember, slow down, relax and be real!
Peace and Love, BrownBoyBB.
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