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You are already Whole

“The Root Of Suffering Is Attachment”

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Believe it or not, attachment to external things bring’s about one’s own destruction. These attachments form into clusters, which then bind one’s self image to these things. One then believes their worthiness is determined in these matters, and thus judges themselves by how they perform in these external things. The end result being that one never reaches the path of enlightenment, or happiness.

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Changing the Code

Often the way we do things in this day and age, is to find a meaning to our life. We go into things or places, hoping to ‘find ourselves’, and although lots of knowledge can be gained by going through this avenue, ultimately it is like sitting on a see saw.

We must aim to rather go into things with the spirit of worthiness. I am doing these things because I AM worthy. I already AM whole, and these things or matters have no say on my ultimate meaning in life.

 

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Forgive yourself

Whatever has happened in the past and however many opportunities you believe you have messed up, it does not matter. This was all meant to be. Those experiences, no matter how trivial they may have been, all were there to teach you what you needed.

Self-abasement is like sneezing on someone who has a flu, in hope of them recovering. We must not beat ourselves up over past or current mistakes.

We must aim to learn and forgive ourselves. This is the only way we can start to take back control.

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Love is the answer

We should all aim to operate with true love to nature and to one another, and of course, to ourselves!

When we open up and embody love we will truly be able to such out the zest of life.

We already are whole, we have just forgotten. It is time to remember the lost knowledge and reclaim our birthright as an immortal soul.

 

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The Perpetual Distraction Of This Reality

 

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We live in a society with seemingly endless things to do. We begin to do one thing earnestly and make progress towards completing this thing. However, we then suddenly jump ship to something else and leave what we have done as an unfinished article. We then continue this pattern, until we get to a stage where we still have so much to do yet hardly anything done. The issues just keep mounting up. We are doing so much yet we are doing so little. What is going on?

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Perpetual Faller

It appears what is going here is that we giving into to every turn of the tide. As soon as something new comes across our path, we latch onto it like a rag doll. We are now at the mercy of these distractions, which, I might add are actually entirely off our own making. They are the results of the repression off internal energies and thoughts. Repression always lead to things coming back ten-fold, and more often than not, this is the reason why we are constantly being dragged into things.

Another part of it procrastination. Things in life are meant to be challenging, and this is what teaches us to grow. However, what happens for a lot of people, is when faced with this difficulty, they switch off. The talents inherent within are shunned and one quickly looks for a route to do something else. This is a real shame, because if we had truly and diligently poured our heart into this difficulty, we would have found the solution.

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Perpetual Loser

 

So what happens when we don’t find the solution?

Well its quite clear we end up with a lot of things half done. Our life appears to be a series of fits and farts. Despite starting many ventures, we just never complete them. To make matters worse, things keep piling up and we become overwhelmed. This is when we throw in the towel and the cycle starts all over again.

Something has got to give.

 

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How to be a perpetual WINNER

 

The first step to changing anything, is understanding that there is a problem in the first place. We have to acknowledge that we are stuck in a cycle in life, and make the conscious intention to break it. It won’t be easy, but I guarantee you that it will be worth it.

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Step 1 – Remove all sources of distraction

The first thing we need to do is completely cut ourselves away from distractions. Would-be recovering alcoholics, often make it a practice to eliminate all sources of alcohol from the house. Dieters also do something similar, by removing all garbage food from the cupboards and replacing with healthy options.

Simply put, you need to get away to the forest to recover, and allow yourself the time away from these painful distractions

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Step 2 – Observe the distraction

Re-introduce yourself to being around these distractions, as the period of cutting away should not be too long, lest you commit escapism. Observe the distractions as they arise, and fully accept it. Do not act on them, just breathe and observe. You will eventually come to realise that you actually have the power to decide over these things, and it is your choice. Completely surrender to it, without acting. Here you will realise your true power.

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Step 3 – Realise that this will help you learn

The final stage will be to understand and comprehend the distraction in such a manner, that you can actually use it to aid you. Here the master will love when he encounters a distraction. Although he may fall, he will learn many valuable lessons from this and eventually see distraction for what it is. Neither good nor bad, simply a tool to help with the development of one’s loftier pursuits.

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So there it is, I hope you enjoyed this article. How have you managed to approach distraction? Share your answers below!

The Way of Empathy

“Blessed is he who prefers his brother over himself”

Baha’ullah

We are caught up in a World where we are always competing with one another. We are caught up in the mode of survival, the life of an animal. We are living in the rat race. Often it does not matter what we do to other people we thinks, as, hey as long as I succeed then its all good right? But is that really the case? Is this really the way live? And more importantly, does this make you happy?

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The Common Path

The path we are designated to go on through to social conditioning we are exposed to is that of competition. Often the quote ‘Dog eat dog’ is prevalent on this physical plain and it is also evident in how many competitions there are (could sports on this planet be said to be all about competition… I think so!). We are always aiming to get to the top and society is a like a pyramid, similar to the food chain. Yes, correct, we are on top of the food chain, but this does not mean we will be here forever, and more importantly, does not mean we should be trying to get in front of our fellow human beings.

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As a matter of fact maybe we should encourage others to succeed before ourselves?

The Blessing

When you truly care for others you suddenly realize how all of your burdens appear ever so light. Better yet truly understanding, caring and helping others, I believe, is the way to live on this planet. Similar to how a branch, when cut off from a tree, ceases to be part of it any longer, so we, when we become selfish and self-centered, cut ourselves off from, everyone else, which means we cut ourselves of from OURSELVES.

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True salvation is helping others and becoming one with them; after all we are all part of the same experience.

Try it out for a week, a month, a year, I guarantee you will never look back!

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Accepting Life’s Vision

“We can either decide now to full embrace everything, or we can attempt to plan every detail and dismay when it all goes wrong”. 

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The Social construct

The society we live is pretty much made up for us to work on auto-pilot. We go to work (usually from 9-5) and then we come back, eat, do an activity, watch TV and sleep. Then the weekends come and we blow it all away in a state of intoxication and before you know it… Monday is back on our doorstep and the morose begins again.

We are living a life of routine.

The life where everything is to plan and we carefully allow ourselves to have designated periods of pleasure. But the problem is, these pleasures are so few and far between that we are often left feeling worse than when we undertook them.

In our depression when then plan a course back to the top. We execute each step to precision to reach a designated goal, and then… it all comes tumbling down, even if we did achieve what we wanted, still that same feeling… emptiness.

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Allowing Things To Be

So it’s very clear here that when we try and plan our lives it just doesn’t go the way we want it. It appears there is a force at large which is governing things (call it God, Universe, Nature etc.). Life is divinely planned and yes we do have a free will, it is like deciding which road to take on your journey. But… do not expect to turn up in London if you take the road leading to Manchester.

I believe the first thing one should do to combat the extremities of life is to accept it. Now accepting doesn’t mean falling into your desires and all those things which lead you further down the road of disappointment; but actively embracing life, connecting to our true selves and allowing life to govern us.

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Instead of asking what the meaning of life is rather we should ask something else; what is life asking of us?

We should aim to dig deep down back into our childhood, find what we truly love to do, and accept the call to adventure.

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Read a similar article I wrote about this – 4 Tips on how to find / reconnect to your true self 

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The Power of Doing Things You Hate

Mediocrity leads to an unfulfilled life. If we dare to get out of our comfort zone and try things which are difficult and uncomfortable, we could find ourselves looking back on these crucial moments as those which changed the course of our destiny.

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Difficulty

We all want to grow in life and become the best version of ourselves. But ask yourself for a second, how many people actually do this? How many people actually learn, grow and create new opportunities?

The sad thing is that not many do. A lot of times when we see difficulty or something which feels uncomfortable, we run as fast as we can away from it. It doesn’t feel right, and it makes one feel nervous. We fear failure, and lots of things go through our minds. The end result? We decline and walk away from the situation.

We have just missed out on a great occasion, something which could have answered the questions we currently hold.

However, if we were to change our mind-set towards this; if we were to dive into this difficulty, how much could one really learn and achieve?

It could be the start of something special…

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Dive in

My message to you in this short article is clear.

Dive in, go forth and boldly face the difficulty in front of you, if in doubt, do it!

Often when going into these endeavours, you will feel uncomfortable, everthing will be telling you to collapse and go back to your inner cave.

But do not.

Throw yourself of the edge of the mountain.

That’s the only way you’ll learn how to fly.

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Until next time, in Lakesh my companions, In Lakesh.

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The Beauty of Adversity

Adversity can either MAKE you or it can BREAK you

Choose one.

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Life is like the seasons, sometimes your up, sometimes your down. Sometimes its warm, sometimes its cold. Instead of looking to change the way life works we have an amazing ability to adapt, to learn and gather the jewels from whatever difficulty your are facing right now. There is ALWAYS more than you know.

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What is Adversity?

Adversity is often a difficult or unpleasant situation. We all endure this in life (some more than others) and for many of us it can be very tough. The thing is we must go through adversity in order to grown and learn from life. But too often, these difficulties become too much and we seek external help; not that there is anything wrong with that now and then, but seeking externally is a route to dissatisfaction. The power to overcome is within.

Adversity could range from losing a job, losing a family member or even losing the whole essence of who you are. Many people go through this in life and unfortunately, with the way life is set up, there are many escape routes. TV, Food, Alcohol, Drugs, Sex many of these things are used are gateways for escape.

The problem with this is that you have just missed a huge opportunity for growth, knowledge and expansion. Even if you temporarily manage to forget about your struggles, they will return, tenfold.

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Why you should be grateful for your Adversity

Lets face it, who truly from the bottom of their hearts wants a boring, easy secure life? A life where all you do is lounge around, and everything is planned and nothing goes wrong yet nothing goes right, and you are effectively living out a sorry existence? Who really wants that? Not me that for sure. In my view, if that how you see life, then maybe this article is not for you. To live like that means that you are living like zombie.

(Read – Truth about Happiness)

What is so amazing about difficulty in life is that it reveals yourself to you. All the inner workings of how you as a person operate on this serene plane.

Often when we go through adversity we wish it never came, and spend hours in regret wishing of what could have been; instead of realising the grand opportunity right in front of you.

This has happened for a reason, and after the initial depression if you are able to learn and grow, I promise you on the other side of your adversity, once you have overcome and learnt; your wildest dreams are there waiting for you.

Ultimately, be grateful for adversity, it will all make sense in the end.

Steve Jobs once said:

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever will add up in the future. Some day you will look back, and it will all have worked out”

This quote sums up this article, everything is meant to happen, and just as the seasons are a permanent feature of the weather system on Earth, so is adversity. Learn to work with the seasons.

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How to learn and grow with Adversity

Just like the seasons force up to prepare accordingly, so our adversity teaches us how to live our lives.

Each difficulty opportunity for growth and knowledge about yourself. Never run away from it, face each difficulty exactly how it is, accept it, and work with it. The obstacle in the way becomes the way.

Every step you take is a step closer to the destination and if you are never afraid to fail, then you will always meet with adversity. But what is so beautiful about adversity is that it teaches you what you need to know. It helps you grow as a person, and ultimately it allows you to become your true selfshutterstock_367015991-1000x641.

If you decide to face your adversity, you will one day look back in awe, at just how much you have accomplished. Never run away from your fears, embrace them like the night embraces the day.

 

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Until next time, peace and blessings – Junaid. X

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The Present Oppurtunity

“Some days I just don’t know what to write about, heck some days I don’t even know what to think about. Its as if my brain has been lulled and induced to be some sort of way. This feels like fog, brain fog”  

Unknown – 2017

 

Lets face it guys, life can be tough. It has been for me the last few months, and there doesn’t seem to be a feasible way out of this. When life gets like this for people, it can be very easy to give up and throw in the towel.

It’s as life has forgotten about us and whistled by, like missing the last bus ride home.

Surely there must be some way to deal with this, running away has made it worse!

 

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Why this is happening

Our lives are intertwined with everyone else’s life, and whether you like it or not these people exist! Life on this planet is like spirals and change is a permanent feature in our evanescent time here in this physical reality.

Everything happens for a reason and with free-will we can decide what paths to take, There are always consequences, karma does not play favourite.

What we know of karma anyway, in regards to the definition, is… ‘dislodged’ to say the least. (Read here)

What has happened, was meant to happen, and what is to happen is meant to happen…However, this does not mean that we cannot do something about it. We can. Everything which is past or future, was/is made here right in the present. Live in the now and reclaim your true self.

 

 

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You are still alive

A famous movie once said that ‘every passing second is another chance to turn it all around’. 

Nothing could be closer to the truth than this powerful statement. Often this is also backed up by another famous question…

‘If you were to relive your life again, what would you do differently?’

Many people will answer this question by outlining their inner truest hopes for life. many of these have been now dashed as people have come to accept the life the way it is. But like I said above it is not over!

 

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Parting Worlds

Everything going on in your life now is exactly how you would want it. You have decided to go this way for such a long time now, that you know nothing better.

The new path is opening up for you in the form of your greatest fears. Continue to shut this out, and eventually this will shut you down.

But if one was to explore this path and enter a new world, what great treasures may truly await thee?

Accept the call to adventure, and don’t be afraid to look back in absolute awe at what you have achieved.

 

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How to deal with a setback

“A setback is a Setup for a comeback”

Junaid Khan

Throughout the life of aspiration, one will encounter many setbacks. Often when these occur everything seems confusing and separate. We cannot put two and two together in order to move forward. One can start to feel as if they have failed and this is the end. However, it does not have to be like this. After the initial gloom we can really (if we choose to) gather our tools and once again continue with our dream

 

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This guy has had an unfortunate occurrence…

What is a Setback?

A setback is something which occurs when you momentarily fail at something. You were doing well and suddenly everything collapsed, and in dramatic fashion! Its like a football team who have been playing well all season, then out of the blue they suffer a rare defeat. this then hinders the team and they end up falling way short of the mark come the end of the season. Could I mention Arsenal FC from 2005-2014 here? They are a prime example.

A setback can very quickly become the end. During a setback, energy levels are low and we are often left contemplating why we even embarked upon the designated task in the first place. this can lead to a lot of soul searching and one may even change paths (which is not a bad thing)

However setbacks do not define us.

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We can turn this around…

 

 

Why Have I Encountered A Setback?

On a personal note I am a very superstitious person when it comes to this question, and i often believe that there is something written that is meant to be played out in our lives; and this can be said about setbacks.

Simply put, a setback is meant to happen. Often life is testing your will to see what your made off. Another notion could be that what you were doing in pursuit of your goal / dream was in-congruent to what you truly wanted. Finally it could be that what you are doing is not working and you finally have realised this, a blessing in disguise. You have jumped out of the river of illusion.

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Steps To Deal with A Setback

  1. Allow time for the failure to sink in – It is important to allow thyself to go through the periods of downward energies in order to learn what is required. When you encounter a setback, face it as it is, and do not run away from the ill feeling. Instead, embrace it and allow yourself to feel all those painful energies; trust me it will help.
  2. Ask Yourself… Why Did This Happen? As I said earlier setbacks have a blessing in disguise. Truly look within and ask why did this setback occur. Was I doing the wrong thing? Am I truly invested in this? Do I want this? What did I do wrong? What does my heart tell me? These questions will help you figure out why this occurred.
  3. Focus On What You CAN Do – Setbacks occur for a multitude of reasons and often these reasons are not in control. To simplify matters, observe the setback and think of constructive ways you can overcome it, through the use of your own will; and realise this, the key to your dream lies in the factors within the remit of our control. Once we master these, the external forces will acquiesce to allow the fulfilment of your dream.

 

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I have been away for a long time and have had to do a lot of soul searching. I am still learning like all of you guys who read my articles. I would like to take this moment to thank all those who take the time to read, like and share my articles; you are my inspiration and the reason why I have returned to my dream; I had a setback too, and guess what? it was exactly what I needed.

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Peace and love, Brown Boy.

 

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How to handle Awkward conversations

“He who asks the questions CONTROLS the conversation”

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Awkward conversations can be frightening and uncomfortable. They may put you off speaking to people because you are not being authentic. Here are some of my tips on how to handle awkward conversations (and in some cases make them un-awakward!)

Become genuinely interested in the other person

This is my first and probably most important tip. When talking to somebody it is imperative we ask questions to find out more about them. The key to making this authentic and from a good place is to actually be interested in what they have to say. Listen intently, feel and picture their words. When you are genuinely interested in something it allows the other person to open up; they can sense your genuine energy whilst you are all the more intrigued. Have you ever noticed when interested in something you will ask many questions about it?

 

Slow down and Pauseeeee!

Whist holding conversations much of time we are so focused on what we are getting out of it, which is fine. However, this then makes us very un-grounded, and forcing lots of questions on the other person like an interrogator. Learn to pause, take a deep breath, take in what the other person has just said. Now whilst pauses may feel ever so awkward because you are eager to keep the conversation going, they are all be it a very powerful tool if used in a genuine matter. What I mean by this is; listen to the individual, and if you don’t have anything to say once they have finished the piece, then reply with the following: “Hmmm, interesting, whilst rubbing your lower face slightly”. Try it in your next conversation, it works many wonders… but be authentic!

 

Realise success comes in the amount of uncomfortable conversations you are willing to have

People often wonder what the death of success actually is. I have the answer. The reason people don’t succeed is because they are afraid to get out of their comfort zone. Becoming comfortable with being uncomfortable is key for success, and this is also the case with having conversations with people. If you like a girl, go up there speak to her, be willing to screw it all up; because guess what? Once you have done it you will realise it is not so scary after all. You will learn new things and be able to handle conversations much easier in future. Do not being fearful of awkward conversations – in fact this may sound cliche, but, strive to make at least some of your conversations… awkward.

 

BE YOURSELF

Now I am contradicting myself here, because at the top I opened with the most important tip. Well make the top tip, the now second most important tip; being yourself is by far the best thing you can do. When holding a conversation with someone BE YOURSELF. Do not try and emulate somebody and this just makes it inauthentic. What I mean by being yourself is to express how you are feeling at any given moment. Say what you genuinely want to say even if it will be ridiculed. Be true to yourself, do not lie, and trust your inner guidance. To be ourselves we must find ourselves, but one sure way of finding thyself, is to act from within as much as possible.

 

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I hope you enjoyed these tips, have a great day, and remember, slow down, relax and be real! 

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The Attitude of Gratitude

“Gratitude in advance is the most powerful creative force in the universe”

Neale Donald Walsh

Look around you, look very close, you will begin to see that in today’s society many people are not grateful for what they have, as a matter of fact they behave in a totally opposite way. We live in a society where many people are complaining about their life and circumstances. A way out of this, offered by the elite is to keep attempting to make one self better, through the possession of materialistic items, however, this does not satisfy us. It actually makes us want more and thereby not appreciate what we currently have. We live in a World where a lot of us (me included) are never truly grateful for the miracle of life, and for the fact we are alive… right here, right now.

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Why / How is Gratitude so powerful?!

Employing gratitude is an EXTREMELY powerful process. When you stop, reflect on life and be truly grateful for what you have your life will begin to change. You will genuinely be happy. Gone will be the days of claiming to be a happy once a future goal is reached, you can choose to be happy NOW.

Gratitude is the key to happiness. Daily practice of gratitude can ironically allow you to reach your goals faster. Ever heard the saying ‘fake it till you make it’? Well this is similar to gratitude, be happy now, be grateful now, feel how you would in your ideal life now, and guess what? One of the most important steps towards your goal is achieved. Be grateful for the flowers outside, your family helping you out, a stranger giving you way in traffic, and even for the food on your plate. Some of the most happiest people are those with nothing at all to their name. They have nothing, yet somehow, have everything.

How to practice gratitude

Practising gratitude is a very simple process and need not be complicated, however, there are many different ways to practice gratitude. Here are some of my favourites.

  • Gratitude Journal – Every day, find three new things to be grateful about and write them down in as much detail as possible. Whenever feeling ungrateful, simply refer back to your gratitude journal.

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    Here are some examples
  • Speak gratitude into existence – As you go about your day, attempt to notice as many things to be grateful for as possible. When you see something, marvel at it, do not judge it, simply be grateful for its beauty, and say it out loud.

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  • Give more thanks – Saying thank you is one, if not the most powerful form of gratitude you can employ. Say thank you for everything. For your life, for the postman delivering you valuable letters, your mother for her home-cooked foods. Say thank you more, and you will receive more.

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Lastly, attempt to always see life with the attitude of gratitude. Be genuinely grateful, and you will be happy, I guarantee it.

Thank you for reading this article. Read more on these topics

Truth about Happiness

The Beauty Of Giving

How To Continually Grow Stronger In A Negative World

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